A few weeks ago, my husband asked me, “What do you want for Christmas? Not anything for the house, for the kids or us, but just for you?” I couldn’t answer. Christmas is in 11 days, and I still can’t think of one thing “I” want. Why is that? Why is it so hard to separate our wants and needs from the wants and needs of the house and children? After the twins, my focus shifted from what I wanted to what would make life easier for us. My wish list turned into things like an Instant Pot so I can cook a good meal in just minutes on those crazy nights, that super powerful vacuum cleaner that will get all of the allergens out of the carpet. Those stylish window shades to keep the sun out of the kid’s eyes In the car, and a Keurig so I can have coffee made at the drop of a hat for those long late nights and early mornings. Ya know, those things that will make life easier, better!
What happened to the days of seeing that beautiful watch from your favorite store, those knee-high boots that you would donate an organ for, that new laptop to replace the one you’ve had since 2009 or even that chocolate diamond necklace you saw on the Kay Jewelers commercial you know would look perfect against your skin? We have to get back to wanting things for us. IT’S OKAY TO HAVE SOMETHING FOR YOU THAT DOESN’T CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR ROLE AS A PARENT OR A SPOUSE. Can I let you in on a little secret? What YOU want and what you NEED is just as important as all of the other things you have placed yourself on the back burner for.
Here’s an idea to help you get what the house needs so you can get back to getting what you want. Create a list of things you want/need to get for the home. Prioritize from highest to lowest and buy them throughout the year. You can financially plan for the items and even put them on a watch-list from different retailers to buy them when they are on sale. Most of the best sales that happen throughout the year are better than ones that occur on Black Friday.
If you got nothing from this piece, I want you to get this. You matter. Your wants matter. Your needs matter, and it doesn’t matter who thinks otherwise! Your desires do not end just because you have children. Find yourself again and spoil the hell out of her!
Happy Holidays from Be BOMB Book Club!